Some risky behaviour is a normal part of growing up. However, there is a line when crossed that leads to behaviour that could potentially expose a young person or others to harm. Even teenagers who are not particularly big risk takers may suddenly take a risk, which is out of character. Close relationships with parents makes risky behaviour less likely.
Understanding Why
Parenting a teenager can sometimes feel scary because teens can be drawn to risky behaviour. Due to their development stage, teens are more driven by emotions, rewards and exciting things. They have higher levels of dopamine in their brains meaning ‘feel good’ and ‘exciting activities’ are more attractive.
Keeping an Eye
Knowing who your teenager is with and where they are can help you protect your teenager. For example, when you negotiate rules with your teen, a rule might be that your teen lets you know where they are going to be and that they phone you if their plans change.
Peer Influence
If your teenager feels peer influence to do risky things, you could help them think of ways to opt out without losing credibility. For example, they could tell their friends that they can’t stay out partying because they have a big game the next day and need to get some sleep.
Agree Rules
Negotiate with your teenager to agree rules and consequences for breaking them. Your teenager is more likely to follow the rules as they have agreed them in advance. You will need to be flexible and adapt the rules as your teen grows and shows they are ready for
more responsibility.
Staying Connected
If you stay connected and build a strong relationship with your teenager through listening and
communication they are more likely to be more confident to manage risky situations. They will also feel more comfortable to come to you when in trouble or for advice.
Wide Social Network
You probably can’t stop your teen from being friends with a particular person or group – but you can give them the chance to make other friends through sport, community or family activities. And if you make your teens friends welcome in your home, it gives you a chance to get to know them.
